Besides Family

It takes a village to raise a child but psychoanalysis has traditionally focused on the role of the family in shaping the individual. This wide-ranging collection shines a light on the influence of those outside the family circle: nannies, neighbors, school teachers, friends and playmates, clergy, adolescent peers, lovers, and prof

Collectively authored by psychoanalytic colleagues of multiple nationalities, ages, genders, religious origins, and meta-theoretical persuasions, Besides Family goes far beyond the usual orbit of parents and siblings. Casting a wide net, the contributors look at a number of key figures who may affect an individual’s psychic development and functioning. Each character receives a full chapter which highlights both the beneficial and adverse possibilities within these relationships. The book opens with a chapter on nannies, tracing the centuries-old history in the West and focusing on four renowned psychoanalysts: Sigmund Freud, Sandor Ferenczi, John Bowlby, and Wilfred Bion. Next comes a discussion of neighbours, using material from religious texts, fiction, and poetry. This is followed by a chapter on childhood playmates and friends, which examines the nature of friendship and how it develops across the lifespan. School teachers come next, using literature on teacher-student relationships synthesised with psychoanalytic developmental theory. Clergy is the next subject of discussion, blending Judeo-Christian religious customs with psychoanalytic developmental theory. The developmental significance of adolescent peers is examined next using a blend of neurophysiology, endocrine studies, behavioral observations, social-cultural vectors, and psychoanalytic insights. A discussion of lovers and the myriad ways in which romantic relationships mirror early development is the penultimate chapter. The book ends on the role of mentors and the evolution of the mentor-mentee relationship, taking into account the impact of age, race, and gender. The authors integrate material from history, anthropology, sociology, religion, literature, and film studies alongside vignettes from clinical practice and day-to-day life to bring theory to life. This fascinating exploration is essential reading for practising clinicians and trainees to broaden their understanding of the impact of the wide network that surrounds us all.

Acknowledgements About the editors and contributors Introduction CHAPTER ONE Nannies Patricia Boguski CHAPTER TWO Neighbors Salman Akhtar CHAPTER THREE School Teachers Theodore Fallon, Jr. CHAPTER FOUR Friends and Playmates Mark Moore CHAPTER FIVE Clergy Sonja Ware CHAPTER SIX Adolescent Peers Rama Rao Gogineni CHAPTER SEVEN Lovers Ann Eichen CHAPTER EIGHT Professional Mentors April Fallon References Index,

Acknowledgements
About the editors and contributors
Introduction

CHAPTER ONE
Nannies
Patricia Boguski

CHAPTER TWO
Neighbors
Salman Akhtar

CHAPTER THREE
School Teachers
Theodore Fallon, Jr.

CHAPTER FOUR
Friends and Playmates
Mark Moore

CHAPTER FIVE
Clergy
Sonja Ware

CHAPTER SIX
Adolescent Peers
Rama Rao Gogineni

CHAPTER SEVEN
Lovers
Ann Eichen

CHAPTER EIGHT
Professional Mentors
April Fallon

References
Index

• Edited by Salman Akhtar
• Edited by April Fallon
• Edited by Rama Rao Gogineni

'A short review cannot do justice to each chapter, suffice to say that the contents covered are- nannies, neighbours, school teachers, playmates/friends, clergy, adolescent peers, lovers and professional mentors. The observations are wide ranging [...] Akhtar’s chapter, like all his writing, is comprehensive in scope [...] This is a valuable publication and traces an expanding ‘orbit’ worth following and important to do so.'

— Martin Weegmann, Psychodynamic Practice, 2024

 ‘This edited volume by Salman Akhtar and his colleagues methodically addresses the often neglected developmental impact of relationships with people other than one's parents and siblings. This is a fresh topic indeed. For all of us who constantly strive to understand ourselves and our patients, a thoughtfully compiled collection of papers on this novel orbit of psychic development is a superb gift.’

— Aisha Abbasi, MD, Training and Supervising Analyst, Michigan Psychoanalytic Institute; Author of 'Rupture of Serenity: External Intrusions and Psychoanalytic Technique'

‘Besides Family uncovers an important lacuna in psychoanalytic literature. It reveals fertile furrows to plough in this wide-ranging and engaging book.’

— Jonathan Sklar, FRCPsych, Training Analyst, British Psychoanalytical Society; Author of 'Dark Times: Psychoanalytic Perspectives on Politics, History and Mourning'

‘As psychoanalysts, our emphasis has traditionally been on the effects of various family members on psychic development. Non-familial figures important for ego growth have been neglected. Such “significant others” differ for each of us but it is valuable for the clinician to know which “others” support a person undergoing psychotherapy or psychoanalysis. Besides Family stimulated me to think more deeply about my internally significant others and pay closer attention to such presences in the lives of my patients.’

— Mary Kay O'Neil, PhD, Training and Supervising Analyst, Toronto Institute of Psychoanalysis; Author of 'Mothering Alone: A Plea for Opportunity'

'Every chapter taught me something new. [...] An overarching theme is a belief in the strength of the individual's developmental drive, that desire to repeat the past but find a different outcome. The chapter on lovers is a good example of this with eight beautiful clinical vignettes illustrating the movement over the lifespan towards mature love. Psychopathology is not ignored but the emphasis is on opportunities for growth. This is an accessible and thoughtful book that illustrates the wisdom of the old African saying it quotes: "It takes a village to raise a child".'

— Jane Cooper, MBACP (Snr Accred), former senior counsellor in higher education, BACP Therapy Today, May 2024, 35:4